Monday, December 31, 2007

An Announcement

I am pleased to announce the birth of Jonathan Dean Baddeley at 2:32 am on the 27/12/07. He was 8lb 10oz or 3.9kg at birth. Jennie handled the seven and a half-hour labour so well that the attending midwife 'thought it was a shame' that the final stage had to be done with the assistance of forceps as young Jonathan got a bit stuck. That's possibly not surprising given his size.

The birth was induced. The medical types had been concerned about Jennie's blood pressure and some other issues in the final weeks, and this grew in the final days. We spent the day before Christmas at the hospital as a routine check-up with Jennie's GP ended up in a long stay at the Radcliffe Hospital as they ran a bunch of tests on her. This meant that Jennie pretty much slept through Christmas Day, as you'd expect. Then on the 26/12/07 we were back at the hopital not-so-bright-eyed but certainly early. They decided that they'd like to induce as soon as possible and it just so happened that there was a vacancy that day...

From here the news gets a bit grimmer, but it's nothing to panic about. Due to the concerns that led to the inducing they kept Jennie in for five days for observation and some regular tests. That's ok, except that being in a ward of four new mothers, each with a child, and with Jonathan (after the first day) eating with increasing franticness and regularity (eating for almost three hours straight one night), and with the Hopsital's own schedules of meals, tests, and me not being allowed to be there for 12 hours a day Jennie was getting between 1 to 3 hours of sleep out of every twenty-four, day after day.

I'm not sure how she's managed to cope - I doubt I could have, and certainly not as well. But it certainly has taken a toll. We both got the whole 'less sleep' thing going into this, but I feel that keeping her in for five days with an unsettled baby turned this into something of an extreme sport. (The tone may be light here, but understand that there is a lot of anger here at the inability of an institution to have a suitable policy in place for someone staying in for more than one or two days. Which is a shame, because otherwise the Radcliffe has been on a scale that begins at 'highly competent' and ends at 'amazing').

I know that many of you were entitled to a personal notification of the birth. I'm sorry it hasn't been forthcoming, but I've been trying to be at the hospital for the full twelve hours I was allowed to be there to pick up what load I could, add in a couple of hours of travel time, and there wasn't much time (or energy) left over for me either. I apologise, however. Nonetheless, we still mightn't have gotten around to it even today if it wasn't for the developments of today.

Today was the day that Jennie was going to be released as they were increasingly happy with what they saw from her tests. However, almost as an afterthought they thought they'd just give Jonathan one more check over with the paedatrician. The midwives also thought he looked a bit dehydrated.

The results were fairly concerning. He'd lost about 20% of his birthweight in 4 days, where 12% in 7 days was enough to push alarm bells. As a result his ammonnia (I think that's right, some element however) is imbalanced and his 'infection count' (which is probably his white blood cell count, although I didn't think to ask) is high. Unfortunately that meant they had to eliminate the (highly unlikely) prospect of meningitis. That required a lumbar puncture. Unfortunately it didn't work, so they're going to have to develop the blood cultures to see whether there is an infection there or whether the result is just due to the dehydration (the most likely scenario). But until the results come in Jonathan is on a course of antibiotics.

I had gone back home to get the stuff Jennie and Jonathan would need for another few days while the new rehydration regimen did its work when the results for the infection count came in. So Jennie was woken up five minutes after she hit the bed (again) to get the news that her new son was about to have a needle stuck in his spine and had to deal with it on her own. This has been a truly awful day.

Nonetheless, although we've been fairly rocked by today (when I got the news that they were keeping them in another two days, and before we found out how serious things were, I had to walk away I was so angry at the thought they were going to subject Jennie to another 48 hours of no sleep without doing anything to help), there's a lot we're grateful for and would like people to give thanks for. We're grateful that the problem with Jonathan not getting enough food from the breastfeeding was picked up before we went home today.

We're grateful that it doesn't look serious at this stage (they decided not to put him in intensive care, which was a really good sign). We're grateful he's responding so well to the new regimen--eating everything, and sleeping between feeds,and already more alert and active when awake. Everything looks very promising.

And we're grateful that Jennie has her own room now (it happened immediately after I walked away when the midwife got a glimpse of how upset I was, and not after the two previous occassions when I talked calmly and respectfully, yet fairly forcefully, on the two previous days-so not happy about how we got it, but still very grateful it's been given). And has already gotten a couple of hours sleep as a result. This in turn will help with milk production as lack of sleep inteferes with the milk coming through.

Nontheless, things are, it seems, potentially serious and so we would value prayer. Especially for Jonathan that God would preserve his life and enable him to come through this unscathed. For Jennie, that she would start to get enough sleep (even five hours broken up over the day would be a big step forward at this stage). And for both of us that we'd be wise and godly parents of new Jonathan.

I'm assured by the multiple female staff (including a cleaner) that he's very cute. Apparently it has something to do with the long eyelashes he was born with, which is a bit of a rarity among baby connoisseurs.

Apologies if this has been a bit too light in tone in places given the gravity of the news at this moment. But Jennie and I don't always like inflicting our somewhat black-shaded view of the world on others (while we've cried today, neither of us were really surprised at the development) and I'm probably not at my best to calibrate properly. And I also didn't want to take away from the great news of Jonathan's birth, and that God has looked after him so far. In the midst of the frustration and concern, we have been blessed. Please pray, but rejoice with us as well.MDB

7 comments:

linden said...

Dear Mark and Jen

SOOOO nice to hear your news. Congratulations!! Please be assured that we will right now pray for you all, and in particular, Jen and Jonathan. We contemplated trying to call early this morning, but it seems that leaving it a couple of days would be better.

We love you and will be praying!

Emma, Linden and Abby

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the update. I am following the progress of my favorite nephew with interest. He is a bit like the pimpernell. I am yet to catch a glimpse of those stunning eyelashes!

Hope the little fella porks up quickly and you are all able to head home and settle in together.

Praying for all three of you...

Jeff.

David Ould said...

congratulations, Mark.

we'll be praying for all 3 of you.

/Karen/ said...

Oh so exciting!!! I'm so happy to hear that God has seen fit to bestow another Baddeley on the world :) I will be praying for you guys. Poor Jennie! I can't imagine what it must be like to be so sleep-deprived on top of being anxious, etc.

Gordon Cheng said...

That's full on, Mark and Jennie!

Congratulations on the birth of Jonathon, praying for you, and glad to hear that Jennie has her own room. That matters!

Gordon and Fiona

mandy123 said...

Dear Mark and Jennie,
i am unfamiliar with this whole blogger thingy so please forgive ineptness. Now to the matter at hand. I had had thoughts to pray for you since 23rd Dec, and did so often !!! (quite good for me) so now will continue in earnest. On the whole it is wonderful news. Don't loose sight of 3.9 being a healthy sturdy baby, and remember the blurr and miaisma of first time (or indeed any new next time) parenthood is heavy indeed. You are right that insititutions handle it poorly, although coming from the other side I can say they do try their best in what are difficult times. It is best to do each day at a time, support one another with humour and grace and sleep whenever you can. Things will settle, it can take a number of weeks, (but each week is better than the last) and you will gradually become wiser and more instinctive and better at being able to know what is best for baby ad what is best for both of you. Meanwhile I will lecture no further just wnated you to know that I experienced much the same with mine, and I look back at the times of utter exhuastion and feeling of desparate defenselessness and can now smile and be at peace. I will pray for baby and his hydration and I will pray for sleep, that refresing place that eludes you at this time, and I will pray that each day things work out for good and you can come through this, and of course lots of milk. Hope this gets to you and that you kknow that there are lots of us who think of you often and wish you well and will pray. Mandy Gearside

Unknown said...

Dear Mark & Jennie,

Congratulations on the birth of Jonathan! We were so excited to hear your news and to thank God for many prayers answered.

Glad to hear that Jonathan is picking up with extra milk and the good news about there being no infection (to date). We pray it stays that way.

We hope you continue to get more sleep Jennie. The initial sleep deprivation after labour is awful!
Joce was in hospital for 7 nights with Talia and only slept 2-3 hours max per night. We'll pray that God grants you good rest and that Mark also survives the travelling too and from the hospital and the anxiety of not being able to be there 24/7. We hope you can all be home together soon.

Looking forward to seeing pics of Jonathan (with his lovely eyelashes) when you have time to post them.

Love, Russ, Joce and Talia